Remember to empty…

Before you create your New Year’s resolution, take some time to acknowledge everything you’ve been creating in the past.  Creating NEW on top of having created something numerous times without actually accomplishing it, will predictably not work.  What needs to happen before creation is the action of “emptying out.”  What does that mean???

Emptying out means, taking time to look and reflect on what happened that got in a way of your goals being realized.  Perhaps it was some unpredictable circumstance, but perhaps it was only your way of being and giving up without a fight.  Take a moment and reflect on this because every moment you spend on “reflecting” and “cleaning up” with actually speed up your effectiveness in a year to come. For the most part, we are not lacking creation, we are lacking “reflection,” and state of “letting go” that creates space for something new to occur.

Note: letting go does not mean to let go of the goals you set, but of things and habits that got in a way of your goals being accomplished (example: watching TV, sleeping in, feeling unworthy, not wanting to bother anyone, etc)

That is all!  Wishing you the best year yet!!! Feel free to post what is the thing you are promising to – no kidding – accomplish this year and what are the old habits or ways of being you are willing to let go of to support your goals being realized.  I wish you the best of luck!!!

Listen to you heart but don’t explain

Sometimes I have the hardest time explaining to my husband why I think something is or isn’t right.  That in itself is not bad, what is bad and weird is when I am on a roll to explain why I think the way I think. I have noticed, numerous times, that he totally checks out and completely doesn’t get what the heck I am talking about.  However, over time, I have proven to him that my suspicions were right so he learned to listen to me even though my explanations don’t make sense to him – the result always did.  Then I realized, somehow I am in tune with the universe, yet, my humanity gets in a way and my explaining it is often shadowed by my ego and just linear way of thinking and therefore not giving justice to the actual connection.  

I have a friend who’s been dealing with feeling under the weather for a while now and it’s not until she actually went for a check up that she realized, and then told me, that the source of her feeling crappy was not her lack of willingness, but an actual physical issue she was dealing with, but didn’t know.  This taught me one thing:  when your heart speaks to you, tune in and LISTEN.  Don’t try to explain, but rather, ask questions and seek answers.  Keep asking and wondering until you are at peace, because everything that is in a way of perfect peace and balance and unconditional love is the sign of something being OFF.  Don’t jump to conclusions, do your research, otherwise, you will mess with your confidence, loose credibility as you are bound to be wrong with your initial conclusions and you will stop listening to your heart.  

Have an awesome holiday and do what feels right 🙂

No Tolerance

It’s almost the end of the year, time to reflect, acknowledge what we achieved, close chapters, forgive the unaccomplished… I think that how we spend our holidays has a lot to do with how we relate to what we DID or DIDN’T do throughout the year.  So, for those of you who made big strides, holiday dinner will be an amazing opportunity to share that with your family and friends. Some of you, however, will have to deal with that joining weight watchers didn’t really make a difference, or that you are still coming alone to your family get together.

No matter where you are in the spectrum, take some time to acknowledge it. Keeping things to yourself or avoiding dealing with them will for sure set you for another year of trying to prove something you didn’t do or working on top of already disempowering context about yourself and your life.  You don’t have to share with others if that is not comfortable, but write it down for yourself so you can actually see it (there is no such thing as keeping things on your mind, it is not very organized up there).

Look at ALL the things that matter to.  Write everything out, perhaps even separate them in the ACCOMPLISHED and DIDN’T YET DO columns. Then, pick ONE thing that you can do before the end of the year.  If you are committed to loosing weight, perhaps you can do a cleanse for a week.  If you want to be in a relationship, perhaps you can go on 5 dates.  Do not commit to the result, commit to the ACTION to take inside of producing result you already promised to produce.  And when you pick your ONE thing, GO FOR IT.  Create a NO TOLERANCE zone, no slimming out, no backing out, no finding excuses, no selling out. GO DO IT like your life depends on it.  I promise you, if you push through and do as you said, you will have a whole different experience of this holiday.  You will be proud of who you are that you didn’t give up,  You will relate to yourself as someone who was willing and in action and you will most likely produce some result and have a completely different experience of the new year.  At the end, you will transform that conversation of: “darn, here goes another year and I am still not (FILL IN THE BLANK)”

Reach out if you need support, post a comment about what that ONE THING is, as there is more chances to get it done when it’s declared in reality, and be unstoppable!!!!!