I am feeling mixed emotions lately. Sure, you can blame it on the pregnancy but it’s not all hormones, I can guarantee you. In fact, I’d like to address how some people are in regards to women when they are pregnant and their mood swings (and perhaps not only when they are pregnant). I want to share that knowing that there is a human being within my body is the most miraculous experience I could imagine having. Yesterday was exactly 20 weeks that I am expecting – the middle of the pregnancy and in the past days both my husband and I have experienced some most gratifying baby kicking. I have accomplished much in my life and I can tell you, very little compares to the miracle of life we are able to give.
Something that I could not so clearly see before, as someone with ‘out of this world’ ambition to succeed and be the best in everything, is that the simple joys of life are, at the end of the day, what fulfills us the most. And, you’d never hear me say to give up competition, playing big and achieving enormous heights. I won’t say that as I don’t believe we should have to choose between that life and the life of a wife and a mother. However, there is something about being a wife and a mother that is so deeply fulfilling that I can never again imagine the life without it. So, you guessed it right: it’s about having it all.
But to address what I promised to address: I noticed, and somewhat from my own experience, that most people are not really aware of what it’s like to be expecting a baby. I don’t think anyone who isn’t a mother, truly gets the ups and downs and everything in between as well as the pure miracle of what is actually happening within our bodies, how much the hormones change and how much development there is within a day and even an hour sometimes. It takes something to be the vehicle for all of that, to be able to be and create life and have something within you be so unbelievably powerful in taking all your energy, nutrients and alike. So, I request, give women a break! And not because we can’t handle life, nor because we are weak or unable to handle ourselves. Give us a break because you ought to stand mesmerized in the face of what we are creating and you should not let us have to create it alone.
I am a blessed soul to have a husband and partner in life who is understanding and committed to understanding. He is way ahead of me reading about all that my body is going through such that he can support me in the process. Without him, there would be no baby and without him, I can’t imagine what it would take to do this. So I ask the men out there to support their ladies and to honor the miracle of life. It is truly a miracle and while I used to think that some people just gave up on their life goals and decided to have many babies (and I do believe there is some of that), I take back my judgement that having a child is easy.
Lastly, my message to people is: be great!!!! At the end of the day, if you just allow people to be just the way they are, you may easily hear some of what I am pointing to. It will help reduce our judgments and allow us to see that we are all one, extremely connected, and extremely vulnerable.